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“It is not the bruises on the body that hurt. It is the wounds of the heart and the scars on the mind.”
Our goal with our Instagram is to utilize social media to spread awareness about abuse and the victims’ mindsets. We hope that these quotes and posts will help motivate people to learn more about needed legislation and support for the thousands of people abuse and in need of help.
“Bad Excuses Are Better Than None” He said.
Abusers you would think to be angry large men who look able to commit murder and that stand out in a crowd, right? No, in actuality abusers can be quite charming and rather they are known for being very manipulative. They can use many excuses to keep their victims attached to them and use them they do.
It is a persistent popular myth that domestic violence reflects anger or rage. Domestic violence is a broad spectrum of behaviors, many of which do not involve moments of rage. Abusers are just as likely to socially isolate their partners, criticize their partners, and to dismiss their partner’s feelings and complaints, as to fly into rages.
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/decoding-excuses-for-abuse_b_5998346
The use of anger is significant because it is a tool for manipulation against the victim. Some common excuses used by abusers are drugs or drinking, hard day at work and many others that might confuse their victims and keep them from realizing the abuse. Anyone is at fault other than the abusers in the abusers eyes and this can lead to endless abuse and pain for the victims and anyone involved.
Horrifying Cases
There are many horrifying examples of domestic abuse. Here are some examples of some drastic ones:
“In 2013, Jose Arreola was sentenced to 28 years in prison for his crimes against Maria Escamilla. In 2011, Jose & Maria were living together when this case of domestic violence occurred. Jose had beaten, stabbed and mutilated Maria. Maria had been raped, sodomized and cut on her face, mouth, limbs, and sexual organs.”
“Jason complied and packed a bag, and said he’d come back later for the rest of his stuff. Suzanne went out with her friends that evening, and when she returned late that evening, Jason was waiting for her. He forced himself into her house at knifepoint, where he then proceeded to stomp on her head and face until she lost consciousness. When Suzanne woke back up, Jason was standing over her with a kettle of boiling water and proceeded to pour it onto Suzanne. Jason then attempted to pour a second kettle but was interrupted when police busted through the door.”
“Mary Clemons, now 40 years old, recalls her 15 year marriage, where she was constantly abused and held captive. During these 15 years, Mary has been gagged, tied up, beaten, stripped naked in the woods, chased with a car, guns pulled on her, knives held to her throat, been suffocated, locked and up all day, and so much more. Mary Clemons finally left for good, after her eighth time of leaving, after 7 hours of being suffocated and beaten and then raped for “make-up sex”.”
“McGill proceed to punch and kick his wife and even stomped on her back, which she recently had surgery on. The attack didn’t stop there. McGill struck her with a lamp and tore her scalp, burned her with a cigarette, beat her with a belt, then choked and attacked her with a knife. McGill also threatened to kill her and attempted to rip her tongue out of her mouth. This brutality was only stopped when the neighbor that was drinking with McGill intervened and distracted the husband long enough for McGill’s wife to escape. The wounds were so severe that the Deputy County Attorney, Ann-Marie McKittrick, said that her face was unrecognizable.”
And we have to remember. As horrifying as these cases are, as mochas it seems impossible to do this to another human being, these people are the lucky ones, or as lucky as anyone in these situations can be. And I in no way mean to minimize their trauma. But there is one thing that makes them special… They survived.
Source: http://havenhousefsc.com/5-horrifying-domestic-violence-cases/
Abuse While Asleep
Sexual Abuse while sleeping does not get as much coverage as it should. Sleep can be used many ways in an abuse relationship to gain control. Whether its is sexual assault while the victim is sleeping or causing a lack of sleep by yelling, demanding sex, or insisting on finishing a conversation and not going to sleep until the victim agrees with them. Causing a lack of sleep is even used when torturing someone because it puts them on edge and makes them feel desperate, this is exactly why abusers use this to their advantage. Often times the abuser will even use someones religious belief, waking them up in the middle of the night for sex because god states that a woman’s body is her husbands and not her own. When a husband can demand sex at any hours of the night and can even claim that raping their wife in her sleep because her body is his is just another control tactic used to make the victim feel powerless. Not only that but if the female sleeps through it (which is most definitely possible) then the abuser gets the added benefit of being able to claim anything. They can even claim that they slept through it as well. This is a hideous way to take advantage of the abused women and more legislation needs to be passed to put a stop to it.
Nonprofit Organizations For Sexual Assault
For a free consultation with a lawyer in both English y en Español at “Kelly and Ruben: Attorneys at law” Call for a free consultation 212-235-1370.
Another option is RAINN a free and confidential national assault hotline. For help call 800-656-HOPE
The National Alliance To End Sexual Violence is also a worthy cause to seek help with or to donate to help them with their goal of changing legislation that doesn’t support survivors.
The National Sexual Violence Resource Center (NSVRC) is working to prevent sexual violence through education, collaboration, and resources for survivors.
Speak up!
Many women are abused and if you fear that you are in an abusive relationship or that someone you love might be in an abuse relationship please speak up and call a hotline.
- National Hotline for Crime Victims
1-855-4-VICTIM (1-855-484-2846) - National Child Abuse Hotline
1-800-422-4453 - 1-800-799-7233
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We are hoping people will see this video and realize how serious and issue this is. We need to help these women and Tasnia, Alba, and I hope that our videos will inspire more people to address the government and beg for change. The divorces of women escaping abusers should be special cases. Don’t push a victim back into their abusers arms.
Divorce after abuse is a major problem that we have discussed before. The government has problems that are actively harming women. Please spread our message and like always, Make a Difference! Speak Up!
Warning Signs ~ What to Watch For
If you suspect one of your friends, colleagues or loved ones has fallen victim to domestic violence sometimes it can be hard to be sure. Here are some things to look out for:
- Isolation from friends and family. (Abusers will isolate victims from their support systems and anyone they think might try to help the victim or cause problems in the future.
- Constant checking of emails, texts and other forms of communication. This is the perfect way to control all contact with anyone who might stop the abuse.
- Pressuring for sex. This is another tactic used to completely control a victim and to convince them that it is a normal relationship.
- Mood swings
- Paranoia. This leads to wild accusations of cheating.
- Some common injuries include black eyes, busted lips, red or purple marks on the neck, and sprained wrists.
- Complete control in a relationship.
- A meek timid partner that progressively gets more and more afraid to speak up.
These behaviors and hints should lead you to the conclusion that that person does or does not need help. If someone needs help please do what is safest in that situation and best for the victims health.
https://www.verywellmind.com/signs-someone-is-being-abused-66535
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